Aware Observer

At times, we get so completely wrapped up in a situation that we lose all objectivity. This way of being can be emotionally draining and confusing. At times like this, it is good to know the skill of disentangling your awareness from the situation.

Acceptance Grows Love

Relationship struggles or stress between you and loved ones may be a part of your experience today. Frustration may result from an argument, disagreement, or unresolved tensions. However, the emotions you feel today may have less to do with the actual conflict than with your efforts to resolve the conflict in your favor. Your day may improve and your relationships may be healed if you’re willing to relax. You may be trying too hard to change a loved one or mold a friendship to your liking. Try to remember that relationships can thrive in spite of differences of opinion and disparate needs. In order to appreciate your loved ones more today, consider drafting a list of their good qualities and personal characteristics that you find attractive.

It is when we learn to accept people as they are that we become able to maintain deep, meaningful relationships with others. When you accept others, you recognize that they are different from you and acknowledge that it is those differences that make them interesting. Acceptance is about loving the person that they are, even when there is tension between you. Accepting your loved ones leaves you free to stop trying to change them so that they fit your ideal. You are then free to make the relationship fit the person, rather than the person fit the relationship. When you accept your loved ones for who they are today, your relationships can flourish.

Principles Of Mental Hygiene

The baby looks at things all day without winking, that is because his eyes are not focused on any particular object. He goes without knowing where he is going, and stops without knowing what he is doing. He merges himself with the surroundings and moves along with it. These are the principles of mental hygiene

Fog

When we feel muddled and unfocused, unsure of which way to turn, we say we are in a fog. Similar to when we are in a fog in nature, we may feel like we can’t see where we’re going or where we’ve come from, and we’re afraid if we move too quickly we might run into something hidden in the mists that seem to surround us. Being in a fog necessarily slows us down by limiting our visibility. The best choice may be to pull over and wait for the murkiness to clear. If we move at all, we must go slowly, feeling our way and keeping our eyes open for shapes emerging from the haze, perhaps relying on the taillights of someone in front of us as we make our way along the road.

By and large, most of us prefer to be able to see where we are going and move steadfastly in that direction, but there are gifts that come from being in a fog. Sometimes it takes an obstacle like fog to get us to stop and be still in the moment, doing nothing. In this moment of involuntary inactivity, we may look within and find that the source of our fogginess is inside us; it could be some emotional issue that needs tending before we can safely go full steam ahead. Being in a fog reminds us that when we cannot see outside ourselves, we can always make progress by looking within. Then again, the fog may simply be teaching us important lessons about how to continue moving forward with extreme caution, harnessing our attention, watching closely for new information, and being ready to stop on a dime.

We cannot predict when a fog will come, nor can we know for certain when it will lift, but we can center ourselves in the haze and wait for guidance. We may find it inside ourselves or in a pair of barely visible taillights just ahead. Whether we follow the lights out of the fog, wait for a gentle breeze to lift it, or allow the sun to burn it away, we can rest certain that one way or another, we will move forward with clarity once again.

By consciously opening to the magic around us, we lend a sense of mystery and whimsy to every experience. Our lives can occasionally seem boring and mundane unless we make a conscious effort to embrace the magic all around us. By choosing to see the possibilities for bringing more whimsy and magic into our lives, we begin to attract more happiness, joy, excitement, and love into each moment. We begin to notice our interconnectedness with all living things and experience our lives on a more profound level. This powerful focus can lend excitement and whimsy to even the most mundane circumstances, and our lives blossom into expressions of divine joy. By using your imagination to embrace the mystery and magic all around, you will be creating a joyful atmosphere for everyone to enjoy.

Don't Take Life So Seriously

Much of the time, I take my life too seriously. I do not make take to watch myself going back and forth in a seemingly irrational, chaotic and meaningless journey that is not taking me anywhere. Both ends of the box are open, yet I choose to stay inside. I believe that most of us do that. We haven’t learned how to take ourselves less seriously and relax. Keeping busy, gives us less time to ponder where we are coming from and where we are going. It’s scary outside of the box.
Over the last few years, I have become more aware of my spirituality and have been able to remove myself from the race and out of the box from time to time. I sit back and shake my head and wonder why I am bouncing around with such aimlessness. Why is it that I made this or that turn. I can now laugh at myself when I see myself taking a blind turn and ending up in a cull de sac. I have learned how to remove myself and see my life as the silent observer from across the inlet. I know where I have come from and where I am going. I don’t take any wrong turns too seriously anymore. I understand that they also have purpose, other wise I wouldn’t have made them.
The trip from the west end to the east end is predictable. How I get there and how fast or slowly, is an individual choice. If complicated is how I see it, I have that choice. If I am overly focused on getting to the end quickly, I can make that choice also.
Life is simple, it was designed that way. Add a pinch of seriousness here or there and it begins to get more complicated. We sometimes lose our way or become confused. We lose touch with our purpose and how we want to get there. The more we think about life, the more meaningless it becomes. Life has no purpose, save for the purpose we give it. It’s simply about choice. Turn left, right, go backwards or ahead. When we lose sight, we get lost in the freedom of choices that we have. We become fearful and anxious. We lose sight of the end of the road and begin making mistakes and taking turns that lead us away.
From where I now sit, I can see were the traffic is going. While I’m in it, I am blinded by the car in front of me and the objects that take away my attention along the road.
Next time I travel that road on the north side. I will look back at the silent observer and get my bearings once again.
Learn to take time out for yourself and do nothing. Simply notice where you have been, and where you are going. Practice this often, and your life will change for the better. You will know direction and purpose once again. You will know when a turn does not get you where you want to go. You will use the eyes of the silent observer to guide you. Life will become fun, once you become less serious.
Next time you are lost, look across the inlet, and know that you are there watching yourself, ready to give directions. Better still look at where you want to go first, and trust that you will be guided without making unnecessary turns. Travel often to the other side and watch yourself. Notice how you move. See the comedy in your life and how you create drama. Notice the simplicity of your journey and how difficult you are making it. Notice how you make choices and why. How appropriate the choices are or are not for you. Do not judge ever, just simply notice. Love the one that is now in the driver’s seat and how beautiful you are. Notice how perfect your live is, and how you create your life by making choices that take you where you want to go. Notice also, that you always get to the end of your journey, whether it is all the way to the end of the road or only part way.

The mind’s nature is to move, because only then can you know things. But then, it can not only move, but move away. And therefore, you should have the capacity to bring it back.

Where people are involved, and you cannot change them, you give them the freedom to be what they are, and draw boundaries to take care of yourself.

Do not resist anxiety when you feel it coming. Accept it and work with it not against it. Just as you need to turn the steering wheel of a vehicle along with the skid to control it best, anxiety can be checked most effectively when you show least resistance to it. Do not be angry or tense about it.

Peaceful And Patient Mind-Set

A peaceful and patient mind-set gives us the endurance to outlast any challenges or obstacles we may face. Our frustration is often caused by our feelings of resistance to the circumstances we find ourselves in at any moment. Though it is not always easy to face challenges, doing so with the right attitude makes them seem much less overwhelming. By focusing our minds on peacefulness and patience, regardless of our circumstances, we empower ourselves with the ability to stay centered and optimistic. We can then focus our energy on working through our obstacles feeling determined and hopeful that our efforts will pay off in the end. Choosing to foster a greater sense of patience within yourself today will usher in a more peaceful state of being that will benefit you in every experience.

Emotional Flexibility

You may feel strong-willed today, especially where your beliefs are concerned. You may feel an added intensity or passion about your beliefs, which could make you resolute in your determination to defend them. While strong beliefs can be a powerful force in your life, you may also want to think about ways you can calm your emotions when sharing them with others. One way to do this is to adopt a flexible, accepting mind-set for other beliefs and ideas. Even if you don’t embrace others’ beliefs, you can still honor their right to have them and enter into a meaningful exchange of ideas and experiences. You should then feel calmer when expressing your own beliefs today, while respecting others’ beliefs at the same time.

Adopting a flexible mind-set allows us to interact with others in positive and productive ways. It is easy to become overzealous when we feel strongly about something, especially beliefs that are a big part of who we are, but doing so only alienates others. If we instead choose to step back from our emotions and focus on creating meaningful exchanges with others, we are able to learn more about differing beliefs and share ours in productive ways. With a calm demeanor, we can then interact with others in positive ways and lend our energy to the formation of lasting relationships. By tempering your convictions with a flexible attitude today, you can create a positive atmosphere of sharing and connection with others.

Assume Complete Responsibility For Your Emotional Well-Being