Knotty Mind

Imagine you have had a tough week. You worked hard, endured a lot of stress and you feel depleted and irritable. You find yourself at a social event, but your heart is not really in it. Part of you would like to just go home, but you know that’s not your best option, so you decide to make the best of it.

So what do you do? First you need to be aware of your current state. You recognize that you are tired, a little uncomfortable. You notice that your attitude toward other people is not as charitable as it could be. You notice the thoughts that are flowing through your mind. You observe them as data, but don’t get caught in the fallacy that they are fact. Your annoyance is viewed as a transient state brought on by various conditions. You recognize that you could stay in your anti-social funk or you could use skillful means for changing it. You decide to change it. You get clear on your intention to change your state.

You now are no longer the worn out shlub who walked into this room. You are a radiant being. You are ready to enjoy the event. You can meet and greet acquaintances and strangers without fear. You can be spontaneous and charming or quiet and receptive, as the occasion requires.

Laugh At Fear

"One of the mental toughness secrets of the world class is laughing in the face of pressure, pain, and fear. No matter how big the problem may seem, it won't matter in 100 years. A good mental strategy is doing the opposite of the masses. When the masses are freaking out, you should be laughing. This isn't frivolous, it's street smart. The middle class performer waking up at night worried about the economy is the victim of his/her own fear based thinking. Scared people make short term, irrational decisions. Stay strong and clear headed by hanging loose and laughing at the folly of life. If you can, you'll be happier and more creative in problem solving when times are tough, and you'll be unstoppable and even happier when good times return. The million dollar bonus is once you've stared fear in the face and prospered, you'll never be afraid of tough times again."


-Steve Siebold, CSP

"Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment."

"Let's not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember "Life is too short to be little"."

"When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness."

"Today is our most precious possession. It is our only sure possession."

"It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it."

"Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. "

"Success is getting what you want..Happiness is wanting what you get."

"You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind."

"One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses."

"When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity."


~Dale Carnegie

Bо время боя

Bо время боя воин должен пребывать в состоянии безмыслия, ум должен постоянно быть в состоянии движения и не фиксироваться ни на чем, чтобы воспринимать все и вовремя принимать необходимые решения.

Aware Observer

At times, we get so completely wrapped up in a situation that we lose all objectivity. This way of being can be emotionally draining and confusing. At times like this, it is good to know the skill of disentangling your awareness from the situation.

Acceptance Grows Love

Relationship struggles or stress between you and loved ones may be a part of your experience today. Frustration may result from an argument, disagreement, or unresolved tensions. However, the emotions you feel today may have less to do with the actual conflict than with your efforts to resolve the conflict in your favor. Your day may improve and your relationships may be healed if you’re willing to relax. You may be trying too hard to change a loved one or mold a friendship to your liking. Try to remember that relationships can thrive in spite of differences of opinion and disparate needs. In order to appreciate your loved ones more today, consider drafting a list of their good qualities and personal characteristics that you find attractive.

It is when we learn to accept people as they are that we become able to maintain deep, meaningful relationships with others. When you accept others, you recognize that they are different from you and acknowledge that it is those differences that make them interesting. Acceptance is about loving the person that they are, even when there is tension between you. Accepting your loved ones leaves you free to stop trying to change them so that they fit your ideal. You are then free to make the relationship fit the person, rather than the person fit the relationship. When you accept your loved ones for who they are today, your relationships can flourish.

Principles Of Mental Hygiene

The baby looks at things all day without winking, that is because his eyes are not focused on any particular object. He goes without knowing where he is going, and stops without knowing what he is doing. He merges himself with the surroundings and moves along with it. These are the principles of mental hygiene