More than actual pain, it is our fear of pain that torments us. Similarly, we feel happy not so much by actual pleasure as by our belief that taking a certain step will lead to pleasure. In effect, we are not driven by reality but by our perception of reality. If we honestly want to unfetter our lives we must learn to manage our fears by overriding preconditioned set of responses and transform our fears into power. This is possible if we live our lives in the present and respond to things that are real, not to our fears of what once was or might someday be.