Ребятки, что за розовые сопли? Не ждите лёгкой жизни. Лёгкой жизни не бывает. Легко лишь тому, кому трудности привычны. Никакая победа не вечна. Вечна лишь борьба. В этой борьбе важна любая победа, даже малая. Хочешь победы- готовься к борьбе. Поражение – не конец. Кто не смирился, тот не побеждён. Бояться ничего не надо! Всё можно изменить к лучшему. Укрепляйте в себе всё живое, и в первую очередь волю к жизни, уважение к себе, уверенность в coбственных силах, честь, чувство человеческого достоинства. Воля укрепляется в борьбе. Надо запомнить, что лучше быть здоровым, умным и богатым, чем бедным, глупым и больным. Самым вопиющим недостатком является безволие. Не стойте, праздно наблюдая за происходящим, а делайте жизнь такой, как вам надо. Что сделаем, то и будет. Если мы ничего не будем делать, то будет так, как сделают другие. Жизнь не идет сама по себе. Она делается. 

Very Wise

When you want to reach a floating ball in the sea, if you swim towards it, it will go further away from you. If you stay calm and still, the waves will bring it back to you.

Lost In Thought

"Most people spend their entire life imprisoned

within the confines of their own thoughts.

They never go beyond a narrow,

mind-made,

personalized sense of self

that is conditioned by the past.

In you,

in each human being,

there is a dimension of consciousness far deeper than thought.

It is the very essence of who you are.

We may call it presence,

awareness,

the unconditioned consciousness.

In ancient teachings,

it is the Christ within,

or your Buddha nature.

Finding that dimension frees you

and the world from the suffering you inflict on yourself

and others when the mind-made "little me"

is all you know

and runs your life.

Love,

joy,

creative expansion,

and lasting inner peace 

cannot come into your life 

except through that unconditioned dimension of consciousness.

If you can recognize,

even occasionally,

the thoughts that go through your mind as simply thoughts,

if you can witness your own mental-emotional reactive patterns

as they happen,

then that dimension is already emerging in you

as the awareness in which thoughts 

and emotions happen -

the timeless inner space in which the

content of your life unfolds.

The stream of thinking has enormous momentum that can

easily drag you along with it.

Every thought pretends that it matters so much.

It wants to draw your attention in completely.

Here's a new spiritual practice for you:

Don't take your thoughts too seriously."

~Eckhart Tolle

When Overwhelmed

1. Practice acceptance – Some degree of anxiety is “normal”, healthy, and motivating. It is what helps us get to appointments on time. It’s “normal” to experience some degree of anxiety when stressors are unfamiliar, unpredictable, and/or imminent. Anxiety, in itself, feels bad, but is not harmful and always passes. Think of it like a wave of the ocean; allow it to come in and ride it out.

2. Dismiss your thoughts – We all have moments in which we increase our own anxiety by worrying about that which we cannot completely control. These thoughts are often unrealistic, inaccurate, or to some extent, unreasonable. Catch those thoughts, think about them and how they affect you, and change them to more helpful, adaptive thoughts.

3. Be in the “now” – Too much focus on worrying about what may or may not come and you will not be able to enjoy the present moment. So, schedule some time to plan for what is to come, but take in all that is your present moment and enjoy the present.

True 2

Also, u are a high self monitor You constantly need approval of your actions and motivations Simply put, you gotta give a lot less shit about what others think And concentrate on yourself

True

U have a personality flaw U constantly undervalue yourself as a person And you try to overcompensate You wear your heart on your sleeve and you come across as emotionally needy and vulnerable

TO REPRESS ANYTHING IS A CRIME

TO REPRESS ANYTHING IS A CRIME: IT CRIPPLES THE SOUL. It gives more attention to fear than to love. And that is what sin is. To take more note of fear is sin, to take more note of love is virtue. And always remember to take more note of love -- because it is through love that one reaches to higher peaks of life, to God. Out of fear, one cannot grow. Fear cripples, paralyzes: it creates hell. ALL THE PARALYZED PEOPLE -- psychologically paralyzed, spiritually paralyzed, I mean -- LIVE LIFE IN HELL. And how do they create it? The secret is that THEY LIVE IN FEAR; they only do a certain thing when there is no fear, but then there is nothing left worth doing. ALL THAT IS WORTH DOING HAS CERTAIN FEARS AROUND IT. If you fall in love, there is fear -- because you may be rejected. Fear says, 'Don't fall in love, then nobody will reject you.' That is true -- if you don't fall in love, nobody will ever reject you -- but then you will live a loveless existence, which is far worse than being rejected. AND IF ONE REJECTS YOU, SOMEBODY ELSE WILL ACCEPT YOU. The people who live out of fear think more of not committing mistakes. They don't commit any mistakes, but they don't do anything else either; their life is blank. They don't contribute anything to existence. They come, they exist -- they vegetate, rather -- and then they die. Never be afraid. TAKE RISKS AND LISTEN TO THE HEART. Even if sometimes it says to do mad things, do them! Only then will you live the life of thrill. OSHO Believing the Impossible Before Breakfast Ch #2 pm in Chuang Tzu Auditorium

5 things we all need in a relationship

1. To be heard. We all want to be heard. It’s what makes us feel validated and important. Think about the last time you spoke with someone and they were clearly uninterested. Maybe they were looking around the room, checking the clock, or constantly glancing at their computer screen. Whatever it was they were doing, it appeared to you as if they hadn’t heard a word you said and didn’t really care about what you were saying. It’s not a nice feeling. When you’re at home having a conversation be it with your spouse, partner or kids give them you’re undivided attention when possible. Get involved in the conversation show them you are really listening and that they are being heard. 2. To be valued. It’s difficult to get excited about being in a relationship with someone when you don’t feel you are being valued. If there is a lack of respect or little regard for your contribution to the relationship it can’t flourish. Are you valuing the person you are in a relationship with? Do you include them in decision making or planning for the future? Do you recognize their contributions to the family or home? Are you open minded and willing to accept a different point of view or idea even if it’s not your own? If not, your partner is likely feeling devalued and like their opinions don’t matter. Try being more inclusive, show appreciation for the other person. A simple “thank you” when delivered in a sincere heart felt manner can go a long way. 3. To be an equal. This really ties into the need to be valued. As you enter into a relationship it’s clear that you are both individuals and bring a unique set of abilities, skills and talents to the table. A relationship without equality usually has one person trying to control the other. Equality in a relationship goes beyond splitting chores and other household responsibilities. It also includes: making decisions together as a team no one person being “the boss” having and showing respect for the other person giving space to the other person when they need it asking – not telling or barking orders 4. To be understood. To truly understand someone we must be able to empathize, be willing to take a step back, separate ourselves from our own viewpoint and try walking in the other person’s shoes. Truly listen when they are speaking and avoid getting defensive or becoming distracted by thinking of what you’re going to say in return. Spend time figuring out what makes them tick and understand why this relationship is important to them and to you. By trying to understand who you are building this relationship with you will be better equipped to make it work. 5. To feel safe. Safety in a relationship includes feeling physically safe as well as emotionally safe. Relationships don’t have to be about living in varying degrees of stress, apprehension or anxiety. Let people know that you will protect them, watch out for them and keep their best interests at heart – tell them. Let them know that you welcome them, imperfections and all and create a warm, secure place where you can just BE without judgement. There are all sorts of relationships – marriage, parent-child, neighbors, employer-employee etc. and in each one the participants have these same basic needs. If you have a strong relationship keep doing what you’re doing, don’t stop working at it since it’s all that hard work that made it so strong in the first place. Take a minute to think of the relationships in your life. Are there any that need to be mended? Are there some basic needs that aren’t being met, either by you or someone else?

4 SIMPLE MANTRAS TO HELP YOU STAY POSITIVE AND HAPPY

Editor’s Note: This is a contribution by Sirena Bernal “The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm.” ~Swedish Proverb Mantra, according to the dictionary: Any sacred word or syllable used as an object of concentration and embodying some aspect of spiritual power. Mantra, according to Sirena: Things I say to myself to help me deal. There are times we all go through that just straight up suck. During these times, it can be hard to think about anything other than what’s going on. We can become so consumed in our own misery that we often overshadow any glimmer of hope. And although these times can seem endless while we’re in them, it’s through these crappy times that we learn the most about ourselves and receive some of life’s greatest rewards. I can only say this after going through some of my own crappy times. You know, experiencing little things like breaking up from an engagement, being unemployed, questioning my sexuality, severing several friendships, wiping through my entire savings, and accumulating way too much debt. All within the same year. Yikes. Through my own experiences of hopelessness, confusion, and doubt, I’ve learned to establish a few simple, but very effective phrases to help me stay positive and to keep things in perspective. So now, whenever things cross my path that may initially seem unbearable, or if I begin to doubt myself, I just remember and repeat some of the following mantras: 1. Keep your head up and your heart open. I repeated this phrase to myself over and over again after my aforementioned breakup. At the time, the last thing I ever wanted to do was to open myself up again. After being with the same person for over 6 years (6 years!), I quickly realized that this kind of thinking wouldn’t get me far. I trusted myself that if I just kept my head up and my heart open, good things would come into my life. And I’m glad I listened to myself. I use this phrase both literally and figuratively. By actually keeping your head up, smiling at people as they walk by, and keeping aware of your surroundings, you may notice something or meet someone that you potentially could have missed had your head been down. When to use: During a break up, when you feel let down by someone, or when you feel betrayed or mistrust. 2. Go slowly. With everything. Eating. Talking. Taking a shower. Driving. Even having sex. I noticed when I was super-stressed out about things, I had a tendency to run around like a lunatic, doing several things at once, often times having to re-track my steps because I was so distracted that I left several things out. I found that my projects, errands, and even my conversations with people became very watered down because I was rushing just to finish. Now, whenever I feel like I’m rushing to just get things done, I slow down my pace, take a deep breath, and take my time with whatever it is I am rushing to do. When we slow down, we can taste all the flavors in our food and we digest our meals better. We are better communicators when we talk slower, and we become better listeners. Accidents? They wouldn’t happen as much if we weren’t in such a rush to get somewhere. It’s quality over quantity. When to use: When you are in a rush on the highway, when you’re rushing out to get lunch, or walking around the office, when you feel pressure from deadlines, or while you’re annoyed sitting in traffic. 3. Be easy. Or in other words, don’t sweat the small stuff. I realized that most of the issues that were giving me anxiety were completely out of my control, and they were usually things that wouldn’t matter five years, five months or even five minutes from the time. Like freaking out that I didn’t have something to wear to a party, or stressing that I’d mess up choreography while teaching a class. I learned to not get so worked up over the small things, stressing about matters that, in the end, really didn’t make a difference. So, if you find yourself getting road rage from the guy that cut you off on the highway, let him be. Why get angry and stress yourself out over it? Just be easy. Did someone on the train bump you as they walked by? Who cares? The cab is packed; it wasn’t her fault. Be easy. When to use: When it’s 1 AM and you’re wide awake in bed, thinking about the next day’s to do list, when you spill on your new white tank top, or when the copy machine at work jams. Be easy. There are far worse things in life. 4. Let Sirena be Sirena (swap out my name with yours). Most of us wear masks. And most of us are afraid to be ourselves, simply out of fear of judgment. We take jobs we don’t really care for, stay in relationships we don’t genuinely love, and pretend to be someone different for everybody else. I was there—I stayed in a relationship far longer than I should have and I avoided confronting my sexuality because I was so afraid of being judged. And I’m telling you, it’s a heck of a lot easier to just be you—whatever that means, whenever, wherever. While you’re too busy making yourself appear to be someone else, you kill yourself from the inside out. And it can be a long, slow and painful death to your soul. Bottom line? Accept yourself for who you are, and just be you. This was the hardest lesson for me to accept, but the one that has given me the greatest clarity and direction in life. When to use: Times when you are questioning yourself, when you feel outside pressure to do/be/say/act in a way that is not congruent with your true nature, or when you hold back from doing what you truly want to do because you’re afraid of being judged. Since my “sabbatical” from life, which is what I’ve now jokingly nicknamed this year of despair I described earlier, I have made some dramatic and positive changes. I have a job that I absolutely love, I am on track to pay off all of my debt by the end of this year, and I have accumulated a solid amount in my savings. I’ve also re-kindled past friendships and made some awesome new relationships, while becoming grounded and confident in who I am. These mantras helped me get to this point. Having them has been an effective trick to help me stay positive and on track. What phrase does that for you? Photo by The Glowing North Stars

My overarching philosophy now is to immerse myself completely in what I’m doing at any given moment, to do only what I’ll be glad I did later, when I look back, and to always take my time.

Psychology of Mind (POM)

Psychology of Mind (POM) Psychology of Mind (POM) is a new psychological theory derived from the work of Banks (1983, 1989); Mills (1990a,b, 1993); Mills & Pransky (1993); Suarez (1985); Suarez & Mills (1982); and Suarez, Mills, & Stewart (1987). In a recent article (Kelley, 1990), the author described the principles of Psychology of Mind and revealed how virtually all forms of delinquent and criminal behavior could be explained using the logic of these principles. In additional writings (Kelley, 1993a,b,c), the author applied these same principles to prevention and early intervention programs with at-risk youth and suggested how an accurate understanding of POM could advance the field of criminology. Since these writings, the distinctions of Psychology of Mind have been clarified and simplified into three major principles: Mind, Consciousness, and Thought (Mills & Pransky, 1993). The present paper first describes the refined principles of POM and shows how their logical interaction can help explain the comparative amounts of both deviant and conforming behavior engaged in by youthful offenders.(1) Then the logic of these principles is used to examine the major assumptions of social bonding and control theory of delinquency focusing predominantly on the formulations of Walter Reckless (1956) and Travis Hirschi (1969). The Principle of Mind According to POM, mind is the source of an offender's thinking (how he interprets life), his emotions (how he feels about life), his perceptions (how things look to him), and his ability to experience his world through his senses. Practically speaking, the mind, according to POM, works like a movie projector through which an offender's thoughts are projected from the inside out to form his moment-to-moment idiosyncratic experience of life. Mills and Pransky (1993) warn of the difficulty in grasping a complete understanding of mind: It is impossible to provide an easy-to-grasp description of the mind, because mind is the source of how things look to us. As such, it generates how we think about things. It operates before our thinking. Therefore, it is impossible to intellectually have a complete picture or accurate model of the mind. Such a model would be a product of the mind's workings (p. 5). Psychology of Mind defines an offender's mind as the neutral projector of all of his thoughts. POM proposes that, left to its own devices, each offender's mind is designed to work in a healthy way, operating as a neutral force toward innate mental health, which includes a natural wisdom, intelligence, intrinsic motivation, and high self-esteem. The Principle of Consciousness According to POM, consciousness is the offender's ability to be aware of external reality. Consciousness brings an offender's thoughts to life via his senses. Through consciousness, his thoughts are converted into his experience. Consciousness would be similar to the light in an activated movie projector. Thought creates images in an offender's head. Consciousness is the faculty or the power that makes these images appear real to his senses. The mind combines consciousness with thought to produce his ongoing moment-to-moment reality. Consciousness goes where an offender's thoughts go via his senses. It always brings to light what an offender is thinking. The Principle of Thought The power of consciousness would not exist without thought, or the offender's ability to think, sourced by the mind. In the POM paradigm, mind is a constant as the source of his thinking and experience. Consciousness is also a constant, as it brings to life whatever he is thinking. Thus, according to POM, the only variable in an offender's psychological functioning is thought. If mind is the projector, and consciousness the light, then thought represents the film which comes to life when the light shines through it. Psychology of Mind defines thought as an offender's ability to create images within his own head. For all human beings, including offenders, thinking, like breathing, is a natural life function. This continuous process of thought is the source of his changing experience of life from moment to moment. Unconditioned and Conditioned Thinking POM proposes two different and observable modes of thinking by which thoughts are generated and used by all offenders. These two distinct thought processes are called original or unconditioned thought, and reactive or conditioned thought. Original, or unconditioned thought is an innate, rational, and insightful thought process. It is also the source of positive change, high mental health, perspective, common sense, and understanding. Mills and Pransky (1993) describe their recognition of this thought process: From observing the ups and downs of our clients, we concluded that there are two noticeably different processes by which thoughts are generated and used. People at times exhibited a rational, common sense, insightful thought process. This natural flow of thoughts that occur to people and simply come and go, appeared to be virtually unnoticed by most people. In that thought process, people experience insights and practical ideas about their lives. They have perspective and an intelligence that leads to understanding. They take for granted the wisdom available to them. They might make the observation that they have "nothing on their mind" because their thinking is effortless and objective. This is the thought process we refer to as "original thought." Peoples' experiences from this original thought process will be fresh, impersonal, and interesting (p. 8). According to Psychology of Mind, the original or unconditioned thought process has generally been overlooked and unacknowledged by most researchers because it is innate and ordinary. However, according to POM, original thought represents the way an offender's mind was intended to work. When engaged in this thought process, the offender learns primarily by a process of insight and realization. Once something is understood, his mind will utilize the brain's information processing, storage and retrieval mechanisms, in an objective and functional manner to store learned information in memory for later use at an appropriate time and manner. When original thought predominates, the primary process of learning is unconditioned (by insight). Mills and Pransky (1993) describe the second process, which they refer to as reactive or conditioned thought: The other thinking process, when people are actively drawing on experience or memories or attempting to apply their conditioned learning to circumstances, is what people generally describe as "thought" because it is noticeable; it requires deliberate effort. In that thought process people are working to find understanding and solutions, but they are not assessing creative ideas, objectivity, or a clearer perspective, because they are focused on what they already know, on …

When we practice mindfulness, we learn how to accept and work with difficult mind states instead of desperately trying to control them, change them, force them to be other than they are, or running to avoid or escape them

-казала мазала -в одно ухо вошло из другого вышло

Clear Articulation Of Meaning

Clear Articulation of Meaning You may feel confused and sense that there is something impeding your ability to communicate today. A strong need to express your thoughts and feelings regarding issues that are important to you could cause you to communicate in an emotional way. Your loved ones and colleagues may have an easier time grasping your opinions and intent if you draw your words from your head instead of your heart. Misunderstandings will likely be avoided when you articulate your ideas in a calm, even, and nonreactionary manner. Others may be more open to your thoughts and more willing to entertain your position when you rationally explain yourself to them. Your confusion will likely evaporate today as you sense others beginning to understand and accept your ideas on a variety of subjects. Not letting your emotions get the better of you when speaking to others about topics that you feel strongly about can help you convey your meaning clearly and understandably. When we feel strongly about a subject, our passion can disrupt the flow of our thoughts and make it difficult for others to understand what we are saying. Speaking rationally allows those listening to you to draw conclusions based on what you are saying rather than having to deal with what you are feeling. Your straightforward expression of the facts will leave little room for others to misconstrue your words. Speaking rationally rather than emotionally today will help the people you encounter comprehend your point of view.

Счастливый брак - это не союз двух совершенных личностей. Это два человека, которым хватило мудрости не делать трагедий из того, что у них разные характеры, взгляды, вкусы.Они живут и любят, как бы не было трудно.

Richard's Affirmations

An affirmation is a positive, believable thought that you choose to immerse in your consciousness to produce a desired result.

I live as much of my life as I can right now! I find my greatest pleasure right here, in the moment, so whatever I am doing, I do as well as I can.

I become what I think about all day long. The more attention I put on something that is positive, the better I will feel. When I find myself trapped in my analytical mind, I drop my thoughts, clear my mind, and relax. I accept thoughts for what they are. There is no need to turn them into more than they really are or to take them too seriously

My past is a figment of my imagination and so is my future. The only moment that is real is right now.

I commit myself to noticing when I rush. I can’t smell the roses if I am running past them. As soon as I notice myself rushing, I bring myself back to the present moment.

I look for the positive in every situation.

I embrace and experience life rather than constantly analysing it.

I am happy with what is, rather than obsessing with what could be better.

I strive to be fully with the person I am with.

I don’t postpone all of my gratification, I live as much of my life as I can, right now!

I distrust and dismiss my thoughts when I am low. I wait until my mood lifts which will happen quickly when I don’t focus on negative thoughts.

I notice my negative thoughts and let them go. It’s impossible to feel gratitude for something when I am too busy trying to improve it. The solution to depression is to bring my attention back to the present moment where depression can’t exist.
I regularly search for, and acknowledge, my healthy functioning and appreciate it when it is present. In this way I let it grow. Even in the midst of negativity, happy people know there is something better, more powerful, and more important than what they are thinking about. The passage of time has no real relevance in helping us to get over something other than encouraging us to think about other things besides whatever is bothering us. When I forgive someone, including myself, I am saying to myself, “The past is over”. No-one, even myself, can undo what is done. I find my happiness by living in the moment rather than demanding that situations, conditions, places, or people make me happy.

I take responsibility for my own happiness, right now and choose to concentrate on what I have instead of what I lack.

My healthy functioning is not concerned with what happens in my life, but rather with how I relate to what happens in my life.

I don’t find light by studying the dark.

The past is no longer here. It’s over. It exists only in my own thinking. It was real then, but now it’s only a part of my imagination.

Rule number one is that we create our own thoughts; they flow into our minds and, if left undisturbed, they will flow out again. Our thoughts are just thoughts. They are harmless, providing we decide not to hook into them, or go over and over them, or dwell on them, or create emotional involvement with them. In fact these are choices that we are presented with all day long; because as soon as we decide to hook into and elaborate on a particular thought, which then generates an emotion we are automatically no longer in the present moment! If you feel the need to follow every train of thought that happens to enter your mind, you will be far too busy to be keeping your complete attention to the present experience on a moment to moment basis. Now, this is not to say that we should ignore each and every one of our thoughts. Our mind is a brilliant tool and we need to use many thoughts, practically and constructively, every minute of every day. However, the real choice that we need to make is to separate those useful thoughts from the negative, repetitive thoughts that usually concern something from the past or a worry over an imagined future. These are the thoughts to step back from and to let pass through the mind without emotional involvement. If you believe that your thinking is caused by other people and events going on “out there” and that you can do nothing about it, then it’s obvious that you will be overwhelmed by your thoughts and living in the present moment will seem difficult, if not impossible. If, on the other hand, you can recognize that you are the one manufacturing your own thoughts and that you can choose to let any negative thoughts pass and create the necessary emotional distance from that thinking, you will be able, with practice, to keep your attention on the here and now, the present moment.
Young children are the best examples of people who fully absorb themselves in the present moment, without negatively holding onto the past or fearing the future. They allow themselves to stay completely focused on whatever they happen to be doing and live the experience 100%. As adults however, we have learnt and become expert at the habit of mulling over past events and stressing over future concerns, which effectively squeezes the life out of our present moments. The good news is that if we learnt how to excel in this behaviour, we can equally unlearn it and choose to excel at thinking differently and letting our negative or distracting thoughts go.
Aside from letting go of needless negative thoughts concerning the past and future, another brilliant technique for re-capturing the present moment is to eliminate hurry. Hurry is nothing more than a bad habit; it’s not a scheduling problem, it’s a state of mind problem. There are many extremely busy and productive individuals who almost never feel hurried, and even more people out there who really aren’t that busy, but who feel terribly and overwhelmingly busy almost all the time. The degree to which you feel hurried in your life is dependent entirely on your ability to keep your attention in the present moment. A mindful person knows that as long as he continues thinking about things yet to be done he will continue to feel hurried; it’s that simple. Our minds are capable of making us feel hurried, even when we’re really not under serious time pressure. So, we’re caught up in a traffic jam, or the train has been cancelled. Is it the end of the world as we know it? Will the sun come up tomorrow morning? Will life go on? Surely in these situations it’s far better to bring your attention back to the present; look around you, smell the coffee, get back to where you are in the moment, right now. Certainly there will be times when you need to do things quickly or take immediate action, but do yourself a favour and save your sense of hurry for those special and rare occasions when it’s truly necessary. One of the most eye-opening experiences in life is simply to notice how often we rush around unnecessarily. Once you notice this tendency, you can eliminate most of it by simply bringing yourself back to right here where you are now. Life isn’t an emergency, it’s an adventure. Once you commit yourself to seeing life this way, you will be amazed at how quickly your life will change for the better. Life is a marvellous gift and as you learn to stop worrying and producing thoughts of a painful past or an uncertain future, you will be able to focus on what is happening right now and to enjoy and appreciate this present moment. When negative thoughts come up, understand that they are just thoughts and you don’t need to fear them. By all means learn from the past and then let it go. As for the future, have faith that it will take care of itself if you approach it one moment at a time.

Spiritual Enlightenment – Stepping Back From Your Thoughts

Spiritual Enlightenment – Stepping Back From Your Thoughts
Most of us identify with our thoughts and assume that we are the mind. However this is not the case; you are not your thinking and you are more than your mind.
By: T. A. Whiston


Thoughts flow through your mind like water down a stream every moment of every day. It has been said that an individual entertains over 60,000 conscious thoughts each day, and even this is probably and understatement.
Many people suffer guilt, frustration, and anger toward the self because of the thoughts that flow through their minds. But this is unnecessary, because the mind is only an experience we have, and is not the ultimate definition of who we are.
It's true that a trained mind will offer positive thoughts. And it's true that what we feel and believe within will arise into the realm of conscious thinking.
But on the path of personal greatness the first thing to understand is that you are more than your thoughts, and even more than your mind. You are non-local consciousness, meaning your body and mind is transient experiences you relate to in this life, but are not prisons that you must become fully attached to.
Begin to practice stepping back from forced thought, and just allow your mind to flow freely. This takes some practice, but you will likely grasp the concept as soon as you try it for the first time.
Great relief and even spontaneous joy typically occur very quickly when a person lets go of the need to identify with every single thought. Your mind doesn't need constant supervision and will continue to produce a continuous stream of thoughts whether or not you imagine yourself at the captain's wheel.
Become aware of your body, and pay attention to the physical sensation of just being in your physical form. This will help you escape the constant participation in your thought patterns.
Watch your thoughts as they flow. But do not identify with them, and do not become attached to them.
You are not obligated to own or relate to every thought your mind generates.
Think about this very important statement for a moment. Consider your thinking mind a tool that you can use, but not something you must absolutely identify with.
In other words, no thought that passes through your mind has any meaning at all unless you choose to empower it. You are completely free to let go of negative thoughts and let them drift away. And you can simply ignore automatic negative thinking that seems to come up from nowhere. Ideally you can notice positive thoughts that serve you and decide to support and believe them; you are in complete control over which thoughts matter and which images are simply passing through your mind.
Many of your thoughts and mental images are memories, and may even emerge as the result of experiences you don't consciously remember. Also the media implants thoughts into your mind all the time; certainly you are not required to entertain thinking that was placed in your mind via suggestion or hypnosis!
Meditation is the best way to still the mind. As you practice basic sitting and breathing you will become very good at letting your thoughts flow without interference.
As you are able to let go and allow your mind the freedom to think what it wants, you will also become adept at inserting your most preferred thought patterns. Ultimately it is your responsibility to train your mind how to think and what to imagine.
Make a daily practice of stepping back from your thinking. Choose to let go of thoughts you don't want, and choose to entertain/empower thoughts that serve your ideal vision of self.
This may be the most powerful personal development exercise of all. Use it well and become the person you deeply know you are meant to be.
To see more insightful content on spirituality and how you can find your true self, be sure to visit the author's blog. You'll find a wealth of information on the things that matter most in life.

Жизнь прекрасна и удивительна!

Если сегодня с утра ты проснулся здоровым, ты счастливее, чем 1 миллион
человек, которые не доживут до следующей недели.

Если ты никогда не переживал войну, одиночество тюремного заключения,
агонию пыток или голод, ты счастливее, чем 500 миллионов человек в этом
мире.

Если ты можешь пойти в церковь без страха и угрозы заключения или
смерти, ты счастливее, чем 3 миллиарда человек в этом мире.

Если в твоем холодильнике есть еда, ты одет, у тебя есть крыша над
головой и постель, ты богаче, чем 75% людей в этом мире.

Если у тебя есть счет в банке, деньги в кошельке и немного мелочи в
копилке, ты принадлежишь к 8% обеспеченных людей в этом мире.

Если ты читаешь этот текст, ты благословлен вдвойне, потому что 1)
кто-то подумал о тебе, 2) ты не принадлежишь к тем 2 миллиардам людей,
которые не умеют читать, и... у тебя есть компьютер!

Attachment/Aversion -> Pull/Push

Vipassana theory 101 – sensations and subconscious mind

Suffering and unhappiness due to cravings and aversions. When we crave or try to avoid something, we stop living in the moment. A craving is any object you want more of and that takes control of your mind, for example addictions, longings or attachments. An aversion is any object you try to avoid, for example people, situations or experiences.

However, your craving or aversion isn’t to the object itself, but to the physical sensation the object brings to your body. Specifically, we crave objects that bring pleasant sensations and avoid objects that bring unpleasant sensations to the body.

Getting rid of attachments. By observing our physical sensations objectively without liking it (craving more) or disliking it (being averse), and by realizing that sensations are impermanent, we train the subconscious mind to let go of accumulated attachments. Through practicing awareness and objectivity towards sensations, we stop adding to our supply of cravings and aversions, causing old attachments to surface in the form of body sensations. If we continue to watch these sensations neutrally, we let go of past attachments. The analogy the teacher used to explain this is that our supply of subconscious attachments is like a charged battery. If you stop charging it (stop adding cravings/aversions), it will slowly discharge itself (the release of cravings/aversions). This is idea is similar to the teaching from the book The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment , which talks about clearing your mind through awareness of your thoughts (after that book, my mental chatter decreased by about 80%), except you’re observing bodily sensations instead of conscious thoughts.
Being a better, more enlightened person

Being in control of your mind. This 2,500 year old Vipassana meditation technique is considered Buddha’s greatest contribution to humankind. By teaching a method for people achieve control over their minds, to be objective and understand the nature of change, people could eradicate suffering caused by cravings and aversions. The theory is that as you progress to later stages of this meditation and build more focus, you’ll be more tuned into your body sensations to the point you’ll realize your body is made of vibrations and energy, and that you are only whole through the integration of many parts.

Finding clarity, love and compassion. Experiencing the nature of you body lets you understand first-hand that we’re not as separate from other beings as we seem to be, and that we’re all connected to what is around us. Eventually, having nothing but compassion and love towards the world. You don’t need to be Buddhist to practice this meditation. There were no religious symbols or rituals during the course or in the meditation technique.

Richard Carlson (as always)

YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS DOING THE THINKING. YOUR THOUGHTS ARE NOT REAL. THEY ARE ONLY THOUGHTS.

Basic Principles of Working with Emotions

Basic Principles of Working with Emotions



Peter B. Williams

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As we work in this series on difficult emotions, there are some basic principles that are helpful to keep in mind. These apply to all troublesome emotions, from fear to sadness to jealousy. Keep this email as a reference and guide for the remaining weeks.



Neither suppressing nor indulging



We avoid our emotions in two modes: by suppressing them or by acting them out. The first mode is easy to see as avoidance, but we may not think of acting out an emotion as a form of avoiding it. We might think this is being spontaneous and “getting into” the emotion. In fact, if you investigate, you may find that you act out your anger and yell at someone because you want to get the emotion out of your body, or that you act on a desire to get rid of the tension in your body. See if this is true for you.



Mindfulness allows us to walk a middle path between denying and indulging. Before we can let go of emotions, we must welcome them and be curious about them. Rumi advises that we become a guest house for whatever arises, that we “Treat each guest honorably.” Emotions are like pesky guests that lurk on your stoop and are willing to stay there forever. It is only once you invite them in and get a good look at them as they poke around the house that they decide to leave you alone, sidling out the back door. When we watch fear or anger with kind attention, staying grounded in the body sensations of the feeling, its energy dissipates by its own accord. We don’t need to “let go” of an emotion like jealousy when it arises, we just need to “let it go” on its merry way by watching it. Its nature is to arise and pass away when it is not fed by our resistance to it. What you resist persists; what you allow takes a bow.



Meeting negativity with negativity



We tend to greet our negative emotions with more negativity, says vipassana teacher Guy Armstrong. We tend to fear our fear, be mad that we are angry and judge ourselves for being so hard on ourselves. Mindfulness helps us do a graceful pirouette that short-circuits this cycle. When we simply turn our attention towards our difficult emotions, we replace reacting to them with interest in them. What is it actually like to be angry? Where is it in the body? Are the sensations pleasant or unpleasant? Just how damning are the thoughts about the person we are so self-righteously accusing? Is this the best time to “speak our truth?”



Accept them more, believe them less



We often are troubled by our emotions because we believe them to be the honest truth, the ultimate reality. In fact, they are just conditioned responses to specific circumstances. When Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche was asked what gets reborn in a future life, he said, “Your bad habits.” According to Buddhist theory, our habitual tendencies to react with fear, anger, and greed carry such psychic momentum that they not only muck up this life, the propel us forward into the next one. Such habits are the reflexive way we respond to circumstances not going our way. The arising of fear is often not so much a reflection of the presence of real danger, but of how strong the habit of fear is. In a sense, the fear habit is looking for a place to land, and the perpetual uncertainty of life gives it plenty of opportunity. After twenty years of teaching in various capacities, I can still get nervous when speaking in front of people. It is obvious to me that believing this fear is folly. I usually just feel the fear and do it anyway, as the saying goes.



Because we believe our emotions to be the G-d honest truth when they arise, we have a lot of trouble accepting them. We can’t let ourselves feel afraid in a tense negotiation because to admit it will be the same thing as abdicating our power. In fact, if we could accept fear in such a situation (without acting from it), we might actually represent our needs better. Acceptance of our mind states allows us to stay in touch with our tenderness, which in turn might foster empathy for and responsiveness to another person’s humanity. Such openness tends to bring about dialog and mutuality rather than hostility and defensiveness.



Mindfulness allows us to accept difficult emotions because we don’t have to be run by them. When we stay in genuine and open witness to them, they eventually lose their energy and dissipate, much like a hurricane dies out when reaching land, leaving behind the wind-fueling power of the warm ocean. It is amazingly freeing when we see dread disappear on its own accord, simply because we became the steady shore of attention it lashed its fury against.



Better to see it than to be it



Of course, sometimes our emotions are informative and have something to teach us. Mindful listening assuredly catches such messages. And it also helps us see how much chaff is in most of our strong reactions. Mindfulness gives us a choice in how to act. As the saying goes, “Better to see it than to be it.” When we are blind to our emotions, they drive us. When we see them, we gain choice over how we want to act, on what motivations we want driving us. It can be quite humbling to see how often fear, irritation, greed and anger can arise. However, says Joseph Goldstein, rather than seeing the arising of an afflictive emotion as bad news, we can celebrate that we have seen it, which gives us choice in whether to act from it or not. Becoming aware of a troublesome emotion is a step towards freedom.



Look for the hook



As we work with each emotion in this class, we will learn the basic storylines in each of them that seduce us. In my experience, the basic hook of fear is “Something terrible is about to happen.” When such a thought arises in something as innocuous as playful banter among friends, drastic action might be called for. We might bite someone’s head off just because they teased us a little. The basic hook in anger, for me, is “I am so right and they are so wrong.” And boy does it feel good to be so right, to obliterate a person in our minds because they are so clueless. The basic hook in desire is, “If I can have that so and so, I will be complete.” That third doughnut sure seemed to glisten with the glaze of permanent nirvana before I ate it. Why could I not remember that in four seconds it would turn into a brick in my belly? As you explore each emotion, be on the lookout for the basic storyline that hooks you.



Color your world



The world is not a pregiven objective reality, but more of a canvas we paint with the emotions we are feeling. The Rolling Stones capture this point well in Paint it Black, a song about grief over the death of a loved one: “I see a line of cars and they’re all into black / No colors anymore I want them to turn black.” Grief drains the world of color. It looks grimly out and sees nothing but suffering, hardship, and despair. The brightest beds of ruby red tulips can’t hide the dog crap that is the true nature of all parks. When we are afraid, we tend to be able to think only thoughts that confirm our fear. In the grip of fear before a competitive soccer game, I will probably only review my past errors, rather than my successes.



In a spectacular feat, neuroscientists have mapped the pathways of strong emotions in the nervous system. In the grips of intense emotion, neuronal signals, rather than flowing through the brain’s thought center in the cerebral cortex, get deflected by the amygdala. This almond-sized organ in the reptilian mid-brain shunts signals away from the forebrain and back into the body in order to accomplish immediate action, bypassing all but the most black and white thoughts. In the grip of a strong negative emotion, the world gets boiled down to the simple law of eat or be eaten. Maybe this helped us survive the African savannah 4 million years ago, but in dealing with such modern dilemmas as not being invited to a friend’s pot luck, there may be some options other than fight or flight. Mindfulness can help us avoid acting out of the stark view that grips us in an afflictive emotion. If we can stay with the emotion with kind attention and refrain from acting on it, sooner or later it will lose its charge. At this point, more options become available.



One moment at a time



Vipassana teacher Sharon Salzberg likes to remind her students that in the grip of a strong emotion one often projects the feeling out into the future and imagines that one will always feel this way. This makes the emotion that much more scary. Be on the lookout for this distortion as you work with a challenging mind state. In fact, all you really have to do to get through a difficult mind state is to be with one moment at a time of it. A great question to ask yourself in the grip of a difficulty is, “Is this moment something I can handle? Can I be with this moment of fear (anger) (desire)?” Ground your attention in the body and recognize that the thoughts are what keep pulling you away into some kind of life catastrophe. The thoughts think they know so much about the future, but really they are often so wrong! “We’ll see,” is a very wise response to such catastrophic thinking. “Let’s just be with what’s happening right now, and see if it is workable.” In the space of such mental composure and attention, it usually is.



Separating emotions and actions



Mindfulness gives us a powerful new tool in dealing with our troublesome emotions: rather than deny them or act them out, we can simply bear witness to them. When the storm clouds of difficulty pass and clear skies in the heart allow us to see a wider range of options, we are much more likely to take appropriate action, action that takes care of our true needs and fosters connection with others at the same time. Seeing that emotions are not commandments for action allows us to “feel the fear and do it anyway.” It might also allow us to feel the desire and not do it anyway, or feel the anger and zip the lips for a few sacred counts. It might allow us to feel generosity and do it anyway, taking the risk of exposing our care for someone.



Mindfulness gives us impulse control. It gives us the ability to choose what kind of actions we want to put into the world. We don’t have to act on every fleeting emotion to feel alive and spontaneous. Awareness itself provides a sense of freshness and novelty. When you fully connect with a breath or a body sensation, life brims with possibility. Larry Rosenberg said on one of my first retreats, “You can’t be bored and be mindful at the same time.” Mindfulness has interest built into it.



May mindfulness bring all its blessings to you. Good luck with your practice!

Name the fear and it will diminish right away

Be kind. Everyone you meet is carrying a heavy burden

live for today... past is past and tomorrow will take care of itself

The bottom line it's all about not losing the sight of big picture and getting wrapped up in the hassle of the present.

Jockey For Power

It may not sound surprising to suggest that most of us jockey for power in our business and personal relationships. The real insight comes from understanding the patterns of behavior that we fall into while pursuing the power of "least interest."

In a study I did on high-need-for-achievement personalities, my team and I observed over and over how these driven individuals sabotage their own relationships at work in their reaction to perceived asymmetries with others. Feelings of inequity in relationships cause us to act out in ways that only exacerbate the problem, and can create destructive cycles that are hard to break.

The downward spiral looks something like this: A person perceives that his subordinate, partner, spouse, boss, or some other party has less interest in a relationship. He may begin to act out in reaction to the imbalance -- pouting or getting unnecessarily angry over small incidents, becoming more critical of others at work and at home -- as his emotional fuse grows increasingly short.

He may fight fire with fire, distancing himself in those relationships in an attempt to regain power and control through expressing less interest. These tactics trigger a similar reaction from the other person, resulting in a self-reinforcing loop of distrust and misunderstanding.

Rather than having a difficult but necessary conversation to identify and resolve the issues at hand, these individuals fear that nothing can be done to get them back in favor and simply continue the cycle in the vain hope that things will somehow balance out. Instead of first reflecting on his own anxieties and insecurities, the individual lashes out at others, placing the blame for the foundering relationship on them.

The power of least interest can cause people to cloak themselves in indifference rather than take the effort and the risks needed to build relationships based on trust. Escaping these zero-sum power games requires a willingness to be vulnerable and honest with yourself and others, to recognize and manage power imbalances while not allowing them to consume you. This is a tall but critical order in a world where our physical and virtual connections to others (and their associated power dynamics) are only growing more complicated.

Psychology of Mind (Sydney Banks)

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Psychology of Mind (Dr. Mark Howard)

Dr. Mark Howard, part 2, talks about the Three Principles.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9wk7IX2P1c

Borderline

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Characterized by: instability of mood, poor self-esteem and self-image, and poor impulse control (1). These mood fluctuations may occur over the space of hours or days, as opposed to the mood fluctuations that occur in bipolar affective disorder. There is often a great fear of abandonment, and higher sensitivity to rejection (or perceived rejection). This can manifest as more unstable interpersonal relationships. The term “splitting” refers to these intense by transient relationships, which can suddenly switch from idealization to contempt.


A person with borderline personality disorder can be incredibly charismatic and witty and enjoyable to be around. Beware of the patient who is overly effusive regarding your abilities. It can be a sign of splitting.

In the doctor-patient relationship splitting can be very problematic, as miscommunication is more like to occur in this setting. Team communication even to the point of regular case meetings, becomes even more important when “splitting” is occurring.

Patients with borderline personality disorder certainly have a higher rate of self-harm without suicidal intent, and in addition a higher rate of suicide attempts (unfortunately sometimes successful).

Epidemiologically borderline personality disorder is much more common in women (ratio of 4:1), and there is often a history of childhood trauma. It is difficult to make a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder prior to the age of 18 years, due to the other developmental changes occurring at this time. It is also extremely uncommon for a first diagnosis of borderline personality disorder after the age of 40 years. This may reflect the evolution of borderline personality disorder into more stable personality disorders, or it may mean that patients with borderline personality disorder may stop seeking help as they age.

Не зная броду - не суйся в воду

Перестань жрать всякую
Питайся регулярно и правильно
Займись спортом
Учись красиво и грамотно разговаривать
Не нервничай
Читай книги но не шлак в интернете
Забей на идиотов
Учись новому каждый день
Высыпайся
Надейся только на себя
Не бойся менять и меняться

No Separate Self

Nervousness is a result of wrongly believing that we have a separate self to protect.

~Vernon Howard

Neurotic thinks that everything, which they perceive as против шерсти is threat to their entire existence, manipulating people around them into walking on eggshells.

Ex. Neurotic husband buys a pack of sour cream. During dinner, mother in law makes a comment that the sour cream, which husband bought couple of weeks ago was better. Husband treats this comment as an attack, as if he manufactured that "bad" sour cream, and throws a tantrum.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words or thoughts will never hurt me.

Люди, как карандаши - каждый рисует жизнь себе сам... Просто кто-то ломается, кто-то тупит, а кто-то затачивается и рисует жизнь дальше...

1. Observe your self‐talk. What do you think and say about yourself? What aspects of yourself do you like? What do you judge and criticize? When you expose thoughts of self‐doubt and self-hatred, be grateful. They lead you to dismantle the patterns of self-sabotage that limit you.

2. Observe your fears. Write these down on paper in detail so you can see them clearly. Pay attention to negative emotions that you feel throughout the day. What was the thought that preceded the way you felt? If you want to feel emotionally and physically better more of the time, you need to understand the thoughts that are causing you to feel bad emotionally.

3. Notice what percentage of time your thoughts are focused in the past or the future rather than the present. The past was a present moment that already happened and the future is a present moment that has not yet occurred. Most of us miss the present—the only moment we have power to change.

Ваш эгоизм совершенно здоров, если вы:

Ваш эгоизм совершенно здоров, если вы:
1)отстаиваете свое право на отказ от чего-либо, если считаете, что это принесет вам вред;
2)понимаете, что ваши цели будут осуществляться в первую очередь, но другие имеют право на свой интерес;
3)умеете совершать поступки в свою пользу, стараясь не вредить другим, и способны пойти на компромисс;
4)имеете собственное мнение и не боитесь высказываться, даже когда оно отличается от чужого;
5)готовы защищаться любыми способами, если вам или вашим близким угрожает опасность;
6)не боитесь критиковать кого-то, но не переходите на грубости;
7)никому не подчиняетесь, но и не стремитесь контролировать других;
8)уважаете желания партнера, но не переступаете через себя;
9)не мучаетесь чувством вины, сделав выбор в свою пользу;
10)любите и уважаете себя, не требуя от других слепого обожания.

That Is Life

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is "AUTHENTICITY".

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it "RESPECT".

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it "MATURITY".

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it
"SELF-CONFIDENCE".

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own
rhythm. Today I call it
"SIMPLICITY".

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health -
food, people, things, situations, and everything the drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is
"LOVE OF ONESELF".

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is
"MODESTY".

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it
"FULFILLMENT".

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection
"WISDOM OF THE HEART".

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know
"THAT IS LIFE"!

Hero: Why didn't you tell me you had that Applied Phlebotinum in your pocket?
Sidekick: You didn't ask.

You owe yourself the favor to be respectful of your money, time and esteem, and make sure you never do this to yourself again!

~Amie McCarthy

6 Steps to Dissolve Fear

1. Name the fear. Shamans say that when we name our fear, it loses power. Brain research shows that when we name our fear, there's more brain activity in the frontal cortex (which is reasoning), and less in the limbic system (which is panic.) Put your hand on your heart. What are you actually afraid of? Notice that when you bring awareness to observing the fear, it has less control over you.

2. Don't act on the fear. Instead, sit with it. When you stop fighting fear, or running from it, it loses its power. Our reflex is to pull away, to clench up. But if you can sit with the fear, breath into it, you start to dissolve it. If you're losing sleep about your child, try just sitting, breathing, tolerating the fear. Resist the urge to take action or lash out.

3. Drop the story that's making you fearful. It could be that your kid will still be wearing diapers when he graduates from college, or still whacking his little sister, but it isn't likely. Whatever story you're telling yourself about your kid is making things worse. He's acting like a kid because he is a kid, and his challenging behavior is a plea for help. Your loving presence is the beginning of healing. That's the only story you need.

4. Bathe yourself in love and connection. The only real antidote to fear is love. The Dalai Lama says "Just imagine you're held in the heart of the Buddha." You might imagine tenderly holding your child when she was a newborn, or being held yourself.

5. Use a mantra: "Whatever happens, I can handle it." Fear is just the panic that we won't be able to handle something. But the truth is, whatever happens, you can handle it. And you can handle it from a much better place if you're anchored in love rather than driven by fear.

5. Use a mantra: "Whatever resists, persists"

Fully Embrace Vulnerability

According to researchers, if you want to be healthy you have to be in an environment where you are accepted and are free to have flaws. You also have to love yourself, have compassion for yourself and accept yourself. Why, because if we are going to be healthy, we must connect, and if we are going to connect, we must be vulnerable with each other.

http://donmilleris.com/2011/12/21/the-power-of-vulnerability/

Change your expectations regarding the amount of attention that you need and deserve from others.

Do It Anyway

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may just never be enough;
Give the world the best you have anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it’s all between you and G-d;
It was never between you and them anyway.
Mother Teresa

А из чего оно складывается, ваше счастье?

— А из чего оно складывается, ваше счастье?
— Из удобной, спокойной и свободной жизни с одной стороны. А также из строжайшей самодисциплины, вечной неудовлетворённости, стремления украсить жизнь, расширить познание, раздвинуть пределы мира.
— Но это же противоречит одно другому!
— Напротив, это диалектическое единство и, следовательно в нём заключено развитие!

~Иван Ефремов