-Notice that the other person is exactly the way he or she is whether you like it or not. Notice how irrelevant your feelings are.

-Notice how much you have fought and resisted the way that person is. Notice the conflict you have created by your resistance.

-Let go of your demands for how that person should be and make peace with the way the person is. Give him or her full permission to be that way forever.

-Remember that acceptance is nothing more than surrendering to the truth. You don’t have to like everything about that person. You just need to make peace with the truth.

-Give all the people in your life full permission to be the way they are. 

You can lead a great life, have healthy relationships and make the best of each day that’s given to you by letting go of all judgment, comparison, ideals and expectations that concern other people.

Do you want to be right, or do you want to be effective and do what the situation calls for?

Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?

Anxiety Coping

1.  Am I falling into a thinking trap (e.g., catastrophizing or overestimating danger)?

2.  What is the evidence that this thought is true? What is the evidence that this thought is not true?

3.  Have I confused a thought with a fact?

4.  What would I tell a friend if he/she had the same thought?

5.  What would a friend say about my thought?

6.  Am I 100% sure that ___________will happen?

7.  How many times has __________happened before?

8.  Is __________so important that my future depends on it?

9.  What is the worst that could happen?

10.               If it did happen, what can I do to cope with or handle it?

11.               Is my judgment based on the way I feel instead of facts?

12.               Am I confusing “possibility” with “certainty”? It may be possible, but is it likely?

13.               Is this a hassle or a horror?