Being Assertive

Payoffs:

· The more you stand up for yourself and act in a manner you respect, the higher your self-esteem

· Your chances of getting what you want out of life improve greatly

· Expressing yourself directly at the time means that resentment doesn’t build up

· If you are less driven by the needs of self‐protection and less preoccupied with self-consciousness then you can see, hear and love others more easily

Price:

· Friends / family may have benefited from you being passive and may sabotage your new assertiveness 

· You are reshaping beliefs and values you have held since childhood and this can be frightening

· There is no guarantee of outcome

· There is often pain involved in being assertive