"I respect myself when I have the courage to overcome my doubts and fears, and risk painful failure, conflict, and rejection by confronting some scary person or challenge."

“I feel really good about myself when I consistently fulfill my responsibilities to others and myself thoroughly, honestly, to the best of my abilities.”

"I respect myself when I know my limits, rights, and boundaries, assert them clearly, and can say 'No' without major shame, guilt, or anxiety."

“I appreciate the way I creatively balance work, play, and rest most days, and take consistent care of my health and security in effective ways.”

"I'm pleased with myself when I use my talents to benefit other people, without getting egotistical, self-neglectful, or codependent."

"I admire myself when IS can defer short term pleasure for long-term satisfaction."

"I like being Me most when I act on my beliefs and values (my integrity) even if it upsets 

other people and risks their disapproval and rejection."

"I respect myself when I admit my mistakes promptly, apologize to others if I've hurt them, and try to learn from my errors."

"I like that I'm usually genuine with other people - I don't have to pretend to be someone I'm not."