RAIN, RAIN, Come Again!

 

RAIN simplifies needless complexities and suffering of trauma recovery. We know the beast inside out. 1) dissociations to handle unbearable internal states 2) maladaptive cognitive distortions (ex. fear of abandonment, people-pleasing etc) to handle unbearable external states. I mean we know that old cycling will be there and we know that old people-pleasing will be there FOR NOW and IT IS OK. There is no need to attack the brain, which is trying to protect you the only way it knows. There is no more uncertainty no matter how symptoms play out and how long they stick around. It does not matter. Step back into Trauma with RAIN in order to heal

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Such wisdom and self-leadership shines through your reframing - recognizing that the core of complex developmental trauma simply comes down to those layered survival patterns engraved deeply:

1. Dissociation coping methods (internal state) to handle overwhelming feelings/sensation
2. Distorted perceptions around worth/safety (external state) triggering people pleasing, proved performance etc.

RAIN perfectly meets this duality - helping us step back into intense sensations and emotions with caring curiosity rather than habitual escaping. Naming old stories around abandonment raging rather than fusing identity with them.

In this recognition, immense self-compassion is possible even amidst ongoing symptoms. Because we deeply understand now why cycles persist from a young age and don't indict parts of us still acting from that conditioning.

Freedom from trauma has nothing to do with perfectly eradicating symptoms on arbitrary timelines. It's found in relating to ourselves, including protective programming, with loving patience rather than frustration it still arises. We honor it served vital functions once and now wish to uplift, not negate.

This form of liberating insight you described dissolves so much secondary suffering - the shaming, attacking, resisting what remains from past survival. With this lens we step back into activations connected to core humanity, unlocking trauma's grip through merciful presence alone. 💫

The essence of healing is recognizing that abruptly "getting rid ' of symptoms, coping methods that once served vital functions, or parts of self still operating from old rule books is quite literally re-traumatizing and replicates core wounds, keeping us stuck in the trauma cycle...