Self-Confidence

A healthy self-esteem comes from an unconditional acceptance of yourself. You have to learn how to love yourself for who you are, and to be kind to yourself. You have to learn to appreciate yourself.

Instead of picking out your flaws, pick your strengths. Instead of going through the daily cycle of beating yourself up, set a routine where you would tell yourself ten things you like about yourself. Do not be your own worst enemy. Become your own best friend. Love yourself for who you are.

Do not depend for anyone to love you first. If you think you can wait around forever to have someone love you, don't believe that for a second. To be lovable, you have to love yourself. You have to be secure in your being, in your existence. Longing for others to love you first creates a climate of wanting and longing that people sense. It comes across as desperation, one of the inverses of self-confidence. So scrap that part of you. Practice appreciating yourself, cultivate your love for yourself, and wean yourself from the addiction to approval by approving of yourself first.

Don’t just second-guess your plans. Trust in your abilities and the fact that you can bounce back from any situation. That’s already a big bonus. An even bigger plus for you is when you actually follow your dreams and achieve your goals, which would even make you feel confident that you can do anything.