THE TWO BASIC BELIEFS

THE TWO BASIC BELIEFS

There are two basic beliefs that are primitive and not true, though both are based on a version of "I'm screwed" (which is not a true statement!): 

    I am powerless [helpless] and dependent (on others for survival). 

       [aka:  "Me, victim!"]

         Therefore, 

              I need approval, rescue, can't stand abandonment, must be good 

                 enough [worthy, perfect, etc.], am afraid there is something wrong with 

                 me.  

              Since I need people, I am lonely and dejected without them, need their 

                 validation; my life must be meaningful or I have no basis for living.

    Something bad will/has happen(ed) to me and I'll suffer and have pain and 

       I'll be unhappy.

         I fear future happenings and I don't think I'll be happy when they happen.

         I can't stand it, something's not going my way.  (Low Frustration Tolerance)

         I'll be unable to handle it (kinda relates to the helpless viewpoint). 

              (Fearlessness.)

         I better WORRY so that I am prepared and have considered everything.  

              (Worry doesn't work!)

(Another version of this is in Change Your Mind, Change Your World, Dr. Richard Gillett.  His statement is that every single limiting belief has two components:  

"I am not good enough" and 

"I can't, I'm a victim of circumstance."  

Unraveling these two causes almost all the other negative beliefs to dissolve.  Some people think they have so many negative beliefs that it will be impossible to handle them.  They just do not know that unraveling the key ones causes the house of cards to collapse.)