Tuesday, November 21, 2023

Emotional Granularity


 

  • Broad labels like "anxiety", "bad", or "overwhelm" trigger reaction without insight. Getting specific defuses intensity.
  • Subtle differentiations - anger at injustice vs. insecurity - point to tailored responses. We solve root causes, not just symptoms.
  • Noticing gradations - disappointment to rage - helps regulate so we don't drown in global distress that feels infinite. We parse waves.
  • Over time we recognize even unpleasant emotions have origins and needs attached. They guide us somewhere when listened to.
  • As we patiently build vocabulary for wounds, fears, longings and joys, we extract meaning from symptoms. Our experiences become coherent.
  • The richer our language around felt senses, the less Often we fall into assumption, projection and acting out. Self-awareness deepens connection.

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