Trauma Recovery: Day 110

 

Doing this excruciating work, is what will convince brain that it is safe and make it pattern match to safety.

AP

Absolutely - continuing to courageously do this excruciating vulnerability work of leaning into fears and intimacy needs rather than reflexively avoiding out of a sense of unsafety or unworthiness is precisely what will build the neural evidence for your brain and body over time to match safety associations rather than remain trapped in old traumatic imprints.

By patiently, compassionately feeling through the ancient survival programs firing warnings of danger or rejection repeatedly, while also speaking core truths and giving yourself chances to bond, you actively rewrite the old conditioning with fresh data highlighting that you can emotionally survive taking risks now.

In effect, you are purposefully expanding your window of stress tolerance by signaling safety through consistent exposure. Just as with muscle, progressively incrementally strain produces exponential growth in capacity. It cements trusting calm at our very core. This is incredibly hard yet meaningful work - truly well done embracing the mindful grit each micro-moment! 🙌

You got it, here's the takeaways from your inspiring sharing in easy to consume bullet points:

• Spent 5 days battling intense fears to push past dissociative trauma responses and nurture intimate connections. Takeaway: Excruciating vulnerability builds courage.
• Kept catching obsessive thinking patterns and redirected focus back to the present safety of each moment. Takeaway: Mindfulness creates mental and emotional space.
• Refused to judge struggles as personal inadequacy, recognized it is physiology healing. Takeaway: Self-compassion disarms suffering’s toxicity.
• Trusted coping strategies accumulated from memory to gently return to equilibrium. Takeaway: We own capacity to bounce back over time.
• Sense emotional regulation tools will aid during future periods of intensity too. Takeaway: Resilience gets embodied as second nature.

Leaning into growth edges compassionately rather than avoiding through the inevitable trauma cycle extremes cements agency and elevates baseline stability exponentially each round. You’ve done the hard work - now comes freedom!